Are you screaming from a tight Christmas?  Deadlines, to-dos, and get-togethers compete for our attention as the holidays ramp up. With so many balls in the air, it feels impossible to get everything done, let alone have a night of peace. 

What if a restful holiday wasn’t a Christmas miracle but a simple matter of priorities? Remember, Jesus offers the word of peace; we just have to listen. Let’s look at some tips to center yourself during Christmas and find peace within the mess. 

Finding Light in the Dark of Chaos

Fear and anxiety are common feelings during the holidays. The pressure of unrealistic expectations–both internal and external–makes it difficult to feel at peace. This is when it’s time to lean on your faith. By turning to scripture and remembering the words of peace contained within, we can find light in an otherwise dark-feeling situation.

Isaiah 9:2, 6

The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light; those who lived in a land of deep darkness—on them light has shined. For a child has been born for us, a son given to us; authority rests upon his shoulders; and he is named Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.

We forget how dark the world must have seemed before Jesus’ birth. Christmas celebrates this light and the gift of peace it brings through eternal salvation. When things feel difficult, seek comfort in the Prince of Peace.

Don’t Succumb to the EagerMess

It’s easy to place unrealistic expectations on yourself around the holidays. In an effort to seem “festive” or “celebratory,” you might become eager to please everyone. After all, who wants to be a Scrooge or a Grinch? While you might find joy in considering everyone’s needs, sometimes that joy and happiness comes at the expense of your own. 

Instead, think about how to prioritize the things that matter most while setting aside some grace for yourself. You don’t have to do it all.

Galatians 1:10

Am I now seeking human approval, or God’s approval? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still pleasing people, I would not be a servant of Christ.

The Myth of ReadiMess

Our efficiency-focused society puts a premium on multi-tasking, workarounds, and life hacks. We are bombarded by messages every day about how we can do more and be ready for anything. Unfortunately, in this euphoria of productivity, we’ve forgotten how to do less. The Bible reminds us:

Exodus 20:8-11

Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is a sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your male or female servant, nor your animals, nor any foreigner residing in your towns.

Thousands of years ago, when the Book of Exodus was written, people understood the value of rest. They even went so far as to designate one day a week for everyone to avoid work. Not that long ago, we followed this example, stores were closed on Sunday, people spent time with family, and the roads were empty. Now, we see Sunday as a day to “catch up,” and we cram in as many chores and errands in an effort to be more “ready.” This mindset makes it nearly impossible to have a moment’s peace. 

How to Prioritize Peace 

Peace comes from a deliberate decision to prioritize your own happiness and health, if even occasionally. This may feel contradictory during the “season of giving,” but you’ll have more to give in the long term if you take care of yourself in the short term.

Key to this is the “art of settling.” This means focusing on what truly matters and learning how to settle for “good enough” with the rest. By doing so, you acknowledge that your time is finite and your abilities are limited. During the Christmas chaos, quiet that interior voice that keeps telling you there’s more to do or expectations that haven’t been met. Allow yourself to breathe, reflect, and pray. 

Proverbs 14:30

A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones

Don’t run yourself ragged trying to meet everyone else’s expectations or complete a hundred tasks. If you struggle to find peace, remember God is with you. Take the time to connect with your faith and seek peace through Him. The art of settling is the antidote to the poison of envy. 

Find Peace at King of Kings

There’s something inherently calming about walking through the doors of a church. On the best of days, it allows you to check your stress and worry at the door and proceed unburdened into the sanctuary. On the worst of days, it’s a place to be validated in what’s hard and find peace through a supportive community and God’s love. 
This Christmas, we hope that you’ll make King of Kings a part of your self-care. Please join us for worship and other activities during the Advent season. If you cannot make it in person, please consider our online worship broadcasts. Together, we can replace anxiety and fear with trust in God, prayer, and faith. Let’s spread peace throughout our community and help everyone find their silent night during this holiest of times.